Table manners help us to see that politeness is not, after all, a disadvantage.Although the ill-mannered person can grab more of the food, he will receive less of the affection; and fellowship is the real meaning of the meal.Next time, he will not be invited.Politeness makes you a part of things and so gives you an enduring edge over those who never acquired it.여기서 it이 가르키는게 politeness 맞나요?