by the time children reach adolescence, we may expect them to be able to keep their room tidy for the first time. but they have never done it before. they have to learn how to do it, and part of that learning process is not doing it, dointg it badly, and doing it differently from how we would do it. growing is a messy business. our job is to help them, that is, to hand them responsibility slowly, bit by bit.

1. 아이들이 청소하는 법을 배우는건데 그 배우는 과정이 청소하는 것을 안하는거랑 나쁘게 하는거랑 왜 갑자기 이런말이 나오는 건지...

2. 중간에 that is 는 뭐죠? 그리고 help(v) them(o) to hand(o.c)/(v) them(o) responsibility(o.c)

hand가 help의 목적보어로써와 동사역할을 하는건가요?